Children go through different phases in their lives. Some are more challenging than others. Typically, young children go through the Know-It-All phase. It’s not the worse phase for a child to go through; however, it can frustrate and tire you out. The Know-It-All phase is where the child believes they know more than their teachers, friends, and even their parents. It will test your resolve. 

So, what tips can you use to help your child through the Know-It-All phase?

Reserve your Praise for Important Milestones

It’s natural to be proud of your child. You want to praise them and are happy to fuel their egos; unfortunately, too much praise can throw fuel onto the fire. It might sound a bit odd, but children shouldn’t be praised for every little (every day) thing they do. For instance, the child is used to putting their toys away and has been doing so for months. Praising the first few times and then reserve it for bigger milestones. 

Children can often develop a Know-It-All attitude because of you. If a child receives constant praise, they will expect it for every little thing they say or do. That type of behavior creates a Know-It-All. So, you may want to keep some praise in reserve for other achievements. 

Choose Calm Conversation Not Arguments

Children who want power and control often try to start arguments. It’s a way to irritate you and gives them power. So, you need to be the adult and know when to walk away. For instance, instead of having a full-blown argument with the child, let them talk and calmly respond. If you can’t do this, then walk away. It is a great way to remain in control. 

Having a calm response shows the child you aren’t going to tolerate arguments. You remain in control and the child doesn’t determine what happens in the home. 

Create a Boundary Everyone Can Live With

Let’s be honest, parents and children don’t always agree. Sometimes, there is a middle ground and when there is, it helps keep a calm atmosphere at home. Unfortunately, there won’t always be 

When there is no middle ground, it’s hell. Fortunately, emotional boundaries can help ease tension within the home. When you and your child agree to certain boundaries, it allows both parties to know their positions and potentially, help the other understand their point of view. 

You, as the parent, must tell the child what and isn’t allowed, especially when it comes to their safety. It’s important to do this so that the child clearly knows why those boundaries have been set. For instance, you can talk about drinking, borrowing the family car, sex, staying out late, and more in-between. 

When there are no boundaries, children can slip into abusive habits with alcohol, drugs, and even food. Creating a boundary, however, reduces those risks. 

Help your Child Express Their Views

It is important children have their own opinions and express them in a positive manner. Parents must understand how generational gaps create different views on subjects, such as sex, drugs, and alcohol. You can, however, rationally discuss these difficult topics with your children so they understand your views and you understand theirs. 

Children go through the Know-It-All phase at different stages in life and it’s important to help them through it. You can be less combative with the child, praise them when it’s needed, set boundaries, and have a calm discussion with them.