How to Stop Your Child From Tattling
No one likes a snitch. Unfortunately, it is normal for children to go through a phase in which they gossip about their peers or siblings. While it is acceptable for children to gossip on occasion, it becomes a problem when it occurs regularly. For example, it can have a social impact since other children will not want to play with them. It is a difficult issue to manage for parents. First, you must determine what is causing your child’s persistent tattling. Then you must design solutions to the problem. Allow us to assist you.
They don’t get it.
Children frequently tattle because they do not understand why other children do not follow the rules. As adults, we understand that not every home operates in the same manner. However, children believe that everyone is subject to the same rules. As a result, if a buddy violates one of your house rules, they believe that the adults should be notified so that the youngster can face the same repercussions as the tattler. Furthermore, children struggle when they believe things to be unfair.
They are insane.
There are also situations when children tattle just because they are angry. For example, if a child steals a toy, the other youngster may inform their parents because they are upset. The child may purposefully tattle to get the other child in trouble in other circumstances. As a parent, you will need to get to the bottom of the problem.
They are looking for power.
Children are always looking for ways to feel in control, and tattling is one of those occasions when they might feel that way. Tattling is a power play and a technique for them to assert dominance over their siblings and peers by demonstrating how they did the right thing while someone else did the wrong thing.
- Talk about when it is and is not suitable. You never want to give your children the impression that they can never notify you when someone is doing something wrong (such as when someone is doing something that is hurtful or can cause pain). However, you should emphasize that kids are not required to notify you every time someone offends them.
- Discuss how it makes them feel. Children must also examine how tattling affects them. Turn the tables and ask how it feels when someone tells on them. This dialogue will also provide an opportunity to discuss how tattle-tattle can have a negative social impact on them.
- Give specific examples. As previously indicated, you must show your children instances of when you should and should not tattle. When your child tattles, for example, point it out and discuss why it was inappropriate.
- Teach children to take care of themselves. Educate your children to stand up for themselves and speak out against wrongdoing.
Tattling is inconvenient, although it is usually a temporary phase. When you understand why your child is spying on others, you can start dealing with it.